Men and women struggle to get on as women think too much about stuff and men don’t think enough
A good friend of mine got in touch recently and she was asking my opinion, as an ex-boyfriend of hers, whether I thought she had a strong personality as she was worried she was alienating a new group of friends by being too opinionated and offending them. It turns out she does not really like them that much and so I asked why she was so bothered and to just be herself.
I then suggested she was doing what so many women do and thinking about things far too much and that she should try and do what men are able to do and think about nothing.
“Think about nothing?” she said, “How do you do that? What does thinking about nothing look like?”
I explained that thinking about nothing is not like looking at a black screen, it is when you can look at something but not really focus or think about anything at all. She said she couldn’t do that, if she was looking at a pencil case, she would be thinking about the pencils and pens inside it or if she could see toothpaste she would be thinking about when it would be running out and having to buy a new one.
She said that she gets annoyed with her husband sometimes as it seems like he is moving in slow motion and that she can see the cogs moving in his head as he figures out how he is going to perform some basic task. She said a woman wouldn’t do that, she would keep moving and not need to stop to think.
I feel that women’s brains are constantly moving, like a CD on high speed, whereas men’s brains are more stop and start type machines. This is not to say that either is better as although women’s brains are constantly active, they are not thinking about anything useful. The great capability of the female brain is cluttered with thoughts of some mad insecurity, shoes, feelings, cushions (women have OCD – obsessive cushion disorder), decorating, dieting, worrying/moaning about friends/colleagues, accessories and the 300 million other things that occupy the female brain.
Men, on the other hand, can only focus on one task at a time and the brain can stay inactive until prompted into action by the restless female brain!
I polled my Facebook friends and the overwhelming response was no, women cannot think about nothing. Here are some of their comments:
That sounds like bliss. No idea how to do it though?
nope. That’s what men do best
But thinking about nothing is still something to think and stress about!
Hmmmmm? Let me think about it?
Eh what? Why would you say that? What is the underlying meaning of that comment?
It is this difference that causes a divide as men cannot understand why women are so highly strung and get upset by everything in life whereas women cannot understand why men are not upset by everything. Men dread being asked by women ‘What are you thinking?’ as often we are just thinking of nothing in particular but we know we cannot say that as it will be seen as being evasive, so we have to make something up.
So I guess what we need to do to make life more harmonious is to get men thinking more and women thinking less, or is that just a silly logical and rational thought, typical of a man?