Monthly Archives: November 2010

Had a haircut?

Regular readers of this blog will know I am not a big fan of getting my haircut. It is not just the actual process of going to the hairdressers that I hate, but the inevitable inane, annoying and downright dumb comments that people say when they notice your hair looks different.

The reason I find this annoying is that the person usually spots your hair and rather than just waiting a second to process what they’ve seen, they blurt out something stupid or redundant. People will say things such as:

“You’ve had a haircut” – this is, in fact, a statement but is said in a way that the person saying it wants you to respond. When you answer a simple “Yes”, they then seem to struggle with what to say next?

Sometimes people just say “Haircut?” as if this is an acceptable question?

If people just took that second longer to think about what they have seen before speaking, they could come up with a more socially proficient comment such as “I like your hair/Your hair is looking good, have you had it cut recently?”, “Have you changed your hairstyle?”

To combat these comments, I use some of the following responses to prevent me from wanting to harm the person who spoke them.

Statement My Response
(to be said dryly with a hint of derision)
“Had a haircut?” “Yes, many times in my life”.
“Have a haircut?” “No thanks, I’ve just had one”
“You’ve had a haircut” “You’re wearing clothes” [then when they look confused], “Oh, I am sorry; I thought we were just making obvious statements about each other?”
“Haircut?” “I actually prefer people to call me Jake rather than Herr Kutt … as that is not my name and I’m not German”
“I like your hair” “Thanks, I grew it myself”

New Blog – Bounce Off!

I am proud to announce my participation in a new blog Bounce Off (, which allows people to ‘bounce off’ their dating and relationship queries to myself and to my partner in advice, Risa Koh.

Together we hope to provide a male and female perspective to a whole spectrum of different relationship issues.

Risa is a no-nonsense, stylish and cool Yank currently residing in the Kingdom of Canadia. A great loyal friend who is always there to give well-reasoned practical and sensible advice.

Jake is a charming British bloke with witty remarks and sarcastic comebacks that make conversation lively and interesting. He is a lovable friend who is always available to offer keen insights on life and love – unless he has a date.

Neither is a trained psychologist, but they spend their time, like ALL the time, discussing and observing dating and relationship issues of others. Utilising their extensive knowledge and experience as well as a lifetime of nosiness and gossiping, Risa and Jake offer their free independent and impartial advice.

Haven’t there been times when you would like an un-biased view on some issue or another with your competitive colleague, BFF, elusive crush, overbearing mother, or romantic partner? Well, now you have it.’

It’s still very new, but please check it out and there will be new postings made several times a week.